Dating a married man downside

I am in a forum where we discuss women issues on line and this topic comes up whether we like it or not,even in daily life it comes up.A lady asked me a question the other day and I thought before I give her feedback I will try to enlighten some women out there,stubborn or not.She asked me,I dated a man for almost three years,the relationship was long distance,but within no time i began to fall in love with this man.Am a single mum to a young 3 year old boy.After sometime, I felt we had matured in ‘love’ and felt it was time for us to meet,yes we met and all went well and yes we decided that within no time we shall take our relationship to the next level,which i agreed as i felt this was real.Am not telling you this to judge me but to help me with what i must do,she said.

After a while,i discover that this man is still married but still not living with his wife as they are separated as he had alleged.I keep finding this man’s half truths and by the day am getting so disappointed in him and am so hurt more than ever.I had never envisioned this man to be a liar,maybe i fell in love too quickly and believed in him too early?.Now am so disappointed but am uncertain as to what I must believe in or must i quit but i am in love and my son likes him already.Now keeping in mind that the woman is still in love,I had this to tell her and thought i must share this with my fellow women and men.

This man has lied to you,has caused emotional pain in you but you still love him,i understand but am sure you have dealt with such men only that you believed he would be  different.Please try to ask for guidance from God and give it time,with time you may realise that it was never meant to be!This man has been with you and has made you discover your inner potentials and abilities,but what are these if he is making you very miserable and never tells you the truth.He is married darling,how sure are you that this man is playing you if he hasn’t taken you to meet with his people?What else is he hiding under his sleeve and what more shocking news are you prepared for?

Carry yourself with pride and so much esteem,you are a great woman who tried a hand in love without knowing you are dating a ‘taken’ man.Forgive yourself and next time don’t fall too hard too quickly.It is time for your recovery and steps have to be taken no matter what.Once he is married he has a long life commitment to someone,which he must fulfil no matter what.He must never try to justify his actions by dating another woman.He is not even comfortable telling you that he is married still,what does that make of the relationship?He must fix his situation first and if you were meant to be,it will sure work out am assuring you.This is a difficult situation but you have to find ways to deal with a heartbreak and move on with life and care for your kid.

For men out there moving on even before they are divorced and lying about their status,please,don’t do this,a woman might fall for you genuinely,she will open her heart and you will leave her more hurt than ever before.Try to be open always,stop being what  you are not.What is wrong with a little truth and what is love without truth?Who wants to start a life with a liar?My lady friend is hurt but am not sure what to tell her as this is a little complicated but i gave her my opinion as honestly as i could.Considering that a married man can decide to go to his wife even after some years of being together or even apart.I believe there is nothing left in this love,it is broken and destroyed unless some amends are made and the woman decides to take the man back after all these misunderstanding.

I believe there is nothing as complicated as dating a married man with or without kids.It is a deal breaker most especially if you end falling in love,the man is usually emotionally unavailable and that can often lead to being emotionally starved.Ladies no matter what a man tells you,never date him when he is taken unless he has prove that he is no longer taken,then at least you can decide if you want him or not.Never even look in the direction of a married man or if you are trying to look there,please stop,your special someone is awaiting you out there.Work on yourself and building you and stop stealing other people’s stuff.What if this was you going through such humiliation?What would you do?Put yourself in this woman shoes or place.Dating a married man unknowingly is different but once the discovery has been made dust yourself and move on.

Be patient as someone will one day come along and you will be happy you waited.Don’t cause grief to another woman.My friend move on and forget this man until this man puts his life together then you will be free to decide what you want.Never despair!!!



Some controversial topic here now…I know… someone might wonder what am up to but I am not putting anyone down or anything.I just saw this somewhere and thought that I bring it to your attention.Who is a socialite really and what is this,someone may wonder.I have found some definitions on Wikipedia,urban dictionary and thesaurus and am finding almost the same definition.”Someone who has money and doesn’t work,instead devoting his or her life to being “socially active”‘.

I encourage women who want to be socialites to be classy or follow my links to be classy and it is always very simple.I wouldn’t tell anyone to be a socialite,to me that is a waste of time and a project for wannabes.Be you and quit trying too hard to impress people or being where you aren’t supposed to be.A socialite according to me is just someone who is trying to be what they are not and that is not so pleasing.All in all, we can never be the same and from everyone we learn something which makes this life very interesting.

I also found some interesting things on ways to be a socialite which is quite interesting…tell me what you think.…happy read and hope I have helped someone get a ‘job’,just kidding.Be You,Be You,Be You and you will never go wrong!

A visit to Hyrax Pre Historic Site in Nakuru

A visit to Hyrax Pre Historic Site in Nakuru

Sometimes it is good to enjoy a little reading and history just to get your mind off of things and to relax,after a long day or week or month of caring for kids,for attending to your man and work or just about anything .A little travel is never harmful to any woman,What do you do when you have so much in your mind or just as a way to unwind?
After sharing my photos with you i will explain what i learnt during my little adventure to this awesome place.What do you also trying a hand in photography.

How to lose weight for men

I know am a little off topic but one of my readers requested me to post on losing weight for men in a more natural way.I did some research and came up with the following from a Men’s health Magazine.Please read and keep more connected and if you got questions ask or let me do research for you.

To add on that losing weight is itself a weighty issue and is an exercise that must be done with diligence,determination and discipline.Eat and never starve yourself no matter what,when you starve yourself,you add more weight for sure.What other ways have you done to achieve weight loss as a man,what has worked and what hasn’t,please share with the others.Thanks always.

Tips on lips care,luscious lips

Who never admires some nice luscious lips?But how do you care for them to make them so nice like this.Do any of you know how to do it,some simple ways to do it?I would appreciate it  a lot.

For my home care tips here and there I normally,apply some Vaseline to prevent them from drying so much as dry lips aren’t so interesting.Mostly they make one look as if they are so hungry or thirsty.Lips are supposed to be welcoming and those overdone ones with so much lip gloss aren’t too good either.

And getting too dry lips happens once in a while,especially when out in the sun or having a long day.So,how do you deal with it?I take an old toothbrush,i keep like two of them for brushing my eyebrows and one clean one for my lips,gently brush on them as if you are brushing your teeth then apply your Vaseline and or lip-gloss for a better shine or anything you do on your lips.Try some lip-balm as well,nivea lip care works well too.So,please never walk around with very dry lips as you already have some home care tips and all day long tips.Always carry a small bottle of Vaseline or lip balm or anything for moisturising your lips…okay?

How do you do this,what works and what makes your lips stand out?Share with us women and let us be beautiful,both in and out.