Children are life teachers

I know you have some questions in your mind regarding children.Some can be quite ruthless,short temper and others just uncontrollable.You have to appreciate that in this world no person is the same as the next or the next and that will never be possible.This is what makes the world different from the rest and more interesting to live in.

Children are different and they are a gift from God,never take your child for granted as that is not good in the eyes of God.

Your kids no matter how you perceive them are so great and a blessing and that is the beauty of kids.

Kids are teachers and what you learn from them is unique and different to you.You learn communication and patience,you have to understand that a child needs so much patience from you.You have to teach yourself dialogue,talk with them children and not at them .

It helps to know that children also help in the dating scene especially if you are a single mum or dad looking to start a life out of the one you know with your child.A child will see the one who makes you happy and the one who completes you,and they will tell you,Mum or Dad that man or woman you are currently dating isn’t the best for you or for us.

Learn to be a good listener to your kids as they will copy such virtues from you.Don’t cut them short while they are talking but no matter how much they talk,listen.Never fake listening as that isn’t too cool either.Listen and provide guidance no matter what.

Have a great friendship with your kids and just be the first one they turn to whenever there is a problem a success or just about anything in their lives.Never abandon them to deal with things on their own but rather be their parent and their pal.

Exercise authority but not too much of it to the extent of making your kids be afraid of you.Balance between parent and pal,that is awesome if you can do it.

Pray for them always and speak great words,positive words before them and never negative words that affect them in a negative way.

Support them all you can and ask God to be your guide no matter how ruthless or outrageous you think your kids are.

God never made a mistake in making you are a  parent but He had a purpose for you to fulfil,that purpose is offering guidance to someone in this world.

Never be too busy for your kids.What could be more important in this world than your kids?Let work come later but your kids first.

What has your kids taught you?Is it something you would want to share.Say it loud here,this is an open forum for sharing and letting it out.

Have a great time and keep reading and enjoying.You all are awesome got questions,ask.Thanks for reading.

 

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3 simple steps to restore hope.

Who hasn’t lost hope in their lives or some challenging situations in their lives? I have,not once but many a time in many situations. I have been realizing that in life, these challenges are supposed to build you and strengthen you and never break you apart or down.

At the beginning of the year, people set goals and ambitions for the year but what you forget is that goals change as time passes by as challenges threaten to tear these goals apart. There is hope though, three steps to rebuilding of hope.

Prayers are the most powerful tool in the world, we just refuse to see or we say we are too tired to do it or God doesn’t listen or He is not there. Am telling you this today, God is alive and very strong. He is a God of riches, we just refuse to be patient in Him and always want the easy way out. Keep trusting in our Father and pray ceaselessly all the time. In challenges, that is when you need to showcase your strengths.

Secondly, Never give up no matter what. You must keep your head high in challenges. Keep busy and let nothing weigh you down. Go about your daily activities like nothing is happening to you. Keep strong and keep going.

Lastly, never ever lose your direction and where you wanted to be and what you want out of this life. Stay focused. Your God, your father is high up, looking down and keeps track of your hardships. Why must you lose focus yet He has a great wonderful purpose for you on this earth? You are not finished, you have just started and you are not about to end no matter what.

The purpose for your challenges is not to make you give up but to make you a better greater person. Someone who through his or her challenges will help others and encourage them to be firm and steadfast. In challenges, you learn to appreciate others and human beings in general. You grow as a person and become awesome and better.

In Conclusion, never underestimate the power of challenges, these are what makes life very interesting and worth to live in this world. As an Indomitable woman, welcome challenges and let God do the rest but help Him by being the strongest and please never complain but say thanks all the time.

What are you facing? Care to share? It also helps to let it out. Here you will never be judged but helped in the best way possible by me. YOUR WELCOME AND ALL YOU,ARE AWESOME!!!

home beauty regimen tips

I have always insisted on using home products for beauty,it is always the best thing to do and helps bond with yourself.

In using home products,you will never go wrong and will know what works and what doesn’t.

So,start giving some of the tips a try and there are a few i also found interesting too,read and implement.Feedback is welcome all the time.

http://shine.yahoo.com/beauty/crazy-beauty-tricks-really-153800321.html

3 simple ways to lose weight naturally.

There are so many ways of losing weight and everyone is different and what works for you may not work for someone else.Recently,we saw a great way to lose weight through meditation and it is awesome.Have you tried it really?As for me am not trying to lose weight but gain weight a little as I have been told am a little underweight…ha ha.

 

I thought of three great ways to lose weight.How many times have you been told walk,walk and walk.Am sure you have heard of walk for so long.Yes and walking helps a lot.Walking is fun.In walking, you can take photos stop to see some exciting things along the way and it is stress free.You should enjoy walking rather than forcing yourself to do it.Losing weight through walking is a slow steady pace but it is worth it.Give it a try.

Belly dancing…have you ever tried to get your tummy into shape?Who hasn’t for that little black or flashing red dinner dress to fit nicely?Yes this is also a nice way to exercise.Belly dancing helps tone the body into a nice great figure,it helps tones the arms.Has anyone ever tried to lose weight this way?Give it a try,anything natural is always worth to give it a try.NO harm.Find a good belly teacher or you can consult You tube,there are great videos there to help you.

The third way is to eat healthy foods with lots of vegetables.How can you eat junk and lie to yourself that you want to lose weight?Prepare or even have a timetable for your meals to help you adhere to a new lifestyle.Changes here are natural,slow but if you keep at it,it will work out nice.Drink lots and lots of water.Water helps a lot in nourishing your body and keeping rehydrated.

Someone once told me that when i drink lots of water i lose weight as that space that is supposed to be taken by food is taken by water.I am not sure this is okay as I haven’t proved the theory yet.Actually,i believe this is starvation indirectly.Don’t stay hungry at all,starving is never the best way to lose weight.In starving you add more weight as the body metabolism fights to maintain the fat in the body hence you add more weight.

After all is said,i am hoping that you love yourself the way you are and are never suffering from low self esteem due to your body shape or weight.Love who you are.Don’t put too much effort on the outside at the expense of the inside.
Stay healthy and love life.Try these ways and give me results.Keep it natural always.Don’t try too hard.

 

 

Domestic Violence,parent abuse

I recently watched a movie that got me thinking for a while…even parents,we get reactions from violent kids.We just never want to believe that our kids can be violent or we just say they are too young to be violent.All hope is not lost anyway,we have to face it and deal with it or control it.You have to be the parent and the pal too.

Domestic violence is never just the woman being beaten or abused emotionally,it involves  the man,the children and the parents too.Don’t try to hide it,let it out,talk to someone it helps,see a therapist or psychologist.Don’t dodge the problem and never deal with it alone.In talking out your problem someone somewhere will be helped and will want to help and the cycle continues.

Who has ever dealt with a violent child and how did you do it.Share with the rest and let’s encourage one another.The child may have witnessed violence in the house by a violent spouse,either man or woman,that is why the child believes that violence is the only way out.The child may believe that you are very weak that is why your spouse was or is attacking you.Talk to your child and find ways to deal with violence.

There are many people who have never heard of parent abuse but knowing this exists and how to deal with it is greatest.It can happen to you.The only way to deal with violence is never to defend it but walk away and find help as quickly as possible.Don’t undermine a therapist as they are there to help.

Keep pondering these and read more of this.Got questions,never hesitate to ask.

http://www.empoweringparents.com/when-Kids-Get-Violent.php#

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BOWWese7eJA

I hope these helps and you watch the movie just to see how some families deal with family problems.Everyone brings their child up in different ways but that doesn’t mean that some of these problems can’t happen to us and that doesn’t mean that your kids can’t be violent.

Keep pondering on this heart touching topic.Always as much as possible be supportive of the people you love and those who ask for your help.Never run away because there is a problem and listen very much to everyone as you will never know if you don’t listen.

In dealing with a violent child,never be violent create a conducive environment for discussion in a calm way as much as possible.Just know that you are not weak in any way and a violent child is sometimes not violence in the house but can be due to a number of reasons beyond our control.

Be confident that no matter what you are the best parent,that is why God gave you that privilege of parenthood.You are an awesome parent,know that all the time. 

How to control anger

How to control anger

This is a link on how to deal with anger and what really triggers anger.How to control anger.There are so many practical tips out there that am sure you have dealt with on how to deal with anger.Read and tell me if it really helped you and if i can send you more details on anger.Ask any questions and i will research for you.

Have a blessed Sunday,a day for reflection.

What is anger,easy steps to deal with anger

Who has the problem of dealing with anger,I thought this is an issue that most of you have to deal with.Anger is my weakness and i have tried to deal with anger for the longest time i can remember.Now what is anger?What brings it or what triggers it and some easy steps that i have experimented with and have worked for me.

According to Wikipedia anger is an emotion related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been offended,wronged and a tendency to react.

Anger can also mean lost enthusiasm for just anything,i found this quote amusing but we can use it as a definition.

Why do we use anger and is it important?Yes expression of anger is very very important as it prevents outburst of anger or rage that is violent.We use anger as a defence mechanism,we have to protect ourselves against negative forces so anger can be used to protect us.

Anger is used to deal with intense negative emotions,like irritation.
To compensate for something we,you didn’t have or some failure in life or lack of communication.

There are some easy steps to deal with anger,here they are:
a).Let the anger out by either talking it out.Some people deal with anger by talking for a long time or just talking alone or talking towards someone.Whatever way,talk it out as much as possible.
b).Sweat it out,sometimes accumulated sweat is a reason for so much stress.Work out but not strenuous exercising.
c). Go to the gym and sometimes box it out.
d).Scream or yell,we are different some people deal with anger by shouting not a bad idea.
e).Walk away if the situation turns violent.Violence is not the best way to deal with anger,it is not a solution but even a problem.
f).You could read a book,if you love reading.
g).Cook a meal or bake nice cookies or try a new recipe so that later you could talk the anger out.

In conclusion,never suppress your anger no matter what because suppressed anger is the cause for violence and is never a solution to anything.
Always find ways to control anger so that you don’t end up hurting people you love or are close to you.
Add more ways to deal with anger and dealing with anger or anger management,your input is always appreciated.